EMBRACING YOUR MULTITUDES: THE TRUTH WOMEN WERE NEVER TOLD

Women are not made in single strokes.

We are carved in layers.
We are written in chapters.
We are shaped by contradictions and carried by truth.

You are a multitude on purpose.

Yet somewhere along the way, you were taught to hide it.
To choose one version of yourself and abandon the rest.
To make your identity small enough for everyone else to understand.

But nothing about you was ever supposed to be small.

You were designed to be a masterpiece.
A living archive of every season you survived and every desire that still lives inside you.

Your identities were never meant to compete with each other.
They were meant to create each other.

This is what embracing your multitudes actually means.

Where Women Learn to Shrink

Stay in your lane.
Be one thing.
You can’t be both.
Life shouldn’t be complex.
Don’t you dare expand into the whole of who you are.

These are the rules we’re taught to play by.
That if we want to be respected, we must choose one version of ourselves and commit to it completely.

So we begin slowly amputating the parts of us that feel inconvenient.

Pieces of ambition.
Pieces of creativity.
Pieces of our voice.

Your identities do not compete with each other.
They inform each other.
They strengthen each other.
They build each other.

You do not have to choose between being a mother and being a visionary.
You do not have to choose between being a nurturer and being a leader.

You get to be a woman who carries fire and softness at the same time.

And that does not make you complicated.
It makes you complete.

You Were Built as a “One of One”

When I say you are one of one, I am not talking about your job title, résumé, credentials, or achievements.

I am talking about the unrepeatable combination that makes you who you are.

Your talents.
Your soul.
Your experiences.
Your grief.
Your joy.
Your faith.

No one else has lived your exact story.
No one else carries your exact blend of truth.
No one else ever will.

You are not a carbon copy.
You are not a category.
You are not a simplified brand of a woman.

You are a fingerprint.
A divine original.

When you forget that, you start denying parts of you.
And when you deny who you are, you disappear from your own life.

That is why you’re exhausted.
That is why you’re resentful.

Denying yourself disconnects you from your own story.
Embracing your multitudes is the only way back.

My Story: Fighting My Own Multitudes

I spent the first three years of motherhood believing I had to choose.

Mother or entrepreneur.
Mother or community builder.
Mother or author.
Mother or woman with a voice.

I consumed content that told me I had to pick a side.
I watched women fight their multitudes and assumed that must be the only way.

So I tried to throw away everything that made me feel alive.

My creativity.
My ambition.
My talents.
My identity.

And I was miserable.

Because I wasn’t just abandoning hobbies.
I was abandoning the woman I was always meant to be.

It took three years to realize that every identity inside of me was meant to coexist.

Mother.
Creator.
Leader.
Visionary.
Storyteller.

When I embraced all of them, my motherhood expanded.
My work deepened.
My voice strengthened.
My belonging returned.

This is the power of embracing your multitudes.
It brings you home to yourself.

How to Begin Embracing Your Multitudes Today

Here are three grounded practices to reconnect with the parts of you you’ve hidden, quieted, or forgotten:

1. Name the parts of you that feel lost

Write them down without censoring yourself.

2. Ask yourself which identities you’ve been denying

Where have you been shrinking to make other people comfortable?
Which version of yourself have you been waiting for permission to bring back?

3. Let one small action create momentum

Text the friend you’ve been missing.
Open the project you abandoned.
Say one desire out loud today to someone close to you.
Wear something that feels like your future self.

Identity comes back in brave little moments.
Your multitudes return through repetition.

You Are Allowed to Be Everything at Once

Your complexity is not a flaw.
It is the foundation of your belonging and the blueprint of your legacy.

Your multitudes are not something to hide.
They are something to honor.

Let this be the moment you return to all of you.